Hi Heymom, I don't consider Patsy's cancer to be a factor at that time as she was well over it and not even taking any drugs and medication for it anymore. She was getting clean bills of health by then. I agree JR wasn't any help to her during her illness. I think it was a household that had traditional roles as far as what the men do and what the women do, (although now it seems like women do so much more,) I think it was probably John Ramseys job to take the video and photos Christmas morning and not Patsys. He even said HE didn't take video because HE forgot to charge the batteries. So it leads me to think it was considered HIS job to do that. I don't know if I believe that story or not. IF there was someone else in the house and ON that video I don't think they would want that seen by LE. I don't really want to defend this theory because I'm not sure if it's something I subscribe to or not, I was just mulling it over. There was some talk somewhere around here somewhere recently about Doug Stine possibly going to Michigan with the Ramseys and possibly having been picked up when they dropped off the gifts on the way home from the Whites Christmas night. And maybe that's why the Stines were so close with the Ramseys after that, even picking up and quitting good jobs to follow them to Atlanta and things like that. Like I said I don't particularly subscribe to this theory but it is something I keep somewhere in the back of my mind since we don't know what really happened that night. I stay open to listening to and considering everything.